Choosing a life partner series- love language

It took me quite a while to know that there was a thing called love language. I had never heard about this before. It is one of the integral parts of things to know in courtship. Perhaps, if you are married and don’t know what your love language is or your partners, you ought to find out .

I was pretty amazed when I found out what my love language is. It made me understand myself better, and I clearly understood why I also felt something was missing in my relationships. Once upon a time, when I brought the matter of love language up, I was told those things are for people getting ready to marry and not married couples. that's not true; please, marriage is a school.

Marriage is a learning process, and marriage comes with many seasons, so never stop learning and never stop acquiring knowledge. The school you go to during courtship before you marry continues in marriage. If you are considering marriage and your partner says things like I don’t need anyone to tell me how to marry, do not have anyone they are accountable to, does not have a teachable spirit, and do not listen to anyone, please reconsider your decisions. These are huge red flags. Don’t ever think you can and will change anyone once you get married .

My counselor introduced me to a book written by Gary Chapman, the five love languages, which brought so much awareness to me. You Need knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in any relationship, not just courtship or marriage. You are better off seeking Godly wisdom, knowledge, and understanding first because, with these three, you will surely breeze through life.

Love can sometimes get lost in translation when two partners speak different love languages. You may express affection to your significant other regularly, but do you truly take the time to make sure you're communicating it the way your partner wants to receive it? This is a million-dollar question.

The five love languages are five different ways of expressing and receiving love: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Not everyone communicates love in the same way, and likewise, people have different ways to receive love. (Gary Chapman)

After I gained awareness of this, I asked a few married couples, and none knew their partner's love language. I will recommend this exercise for anyone courting or already married

Father, help us to seek knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all our dealings in life. Shalom

Adobea (Imani)